People tend to look at a person and instantly gain a judgemental view of them, but, not thinking about what this person may have or had going on in one's life. PTSD is a real disorder that looking at someone you would think they are a normal person. This is not the case at all. People tend to not know they have PTSD and can't help how they respond to others. They don't realize they have an issue until it is pointed out. PTSD can control are sons life and the person had not a clue.
PTSD is not just from soldiers of war anyone that has been traumatized in one point in their life tend to have it. The forms of PTSD can be mild to sever. It will also carry over to family members if not treated. This includes children. PTSD takes control of the person and their mind. Please when you are out and about and you run into someone who is not your favorite person or does not have a great bedside manner don't judge them but think of them as not in their right mind and they don't even know it. They could be ones that suffered with PTSD. The following is my experience.
As a wife of a person with sever PTSD, it is hard watching my husband go through the pain on a daily basis. My husband has his good days or his bad days (I am sure some out there understand). Before we knew what was going on was the hardest part. Our kids and myself felt we were walking on eggshells not sure if he was going to blow at just a tip toe. Trying to diagnose by myself due to my Psychology Major was hard. I would continue to tell him he was. Bipolar. I really thought my husband had all the symptoms Owing bipolar, but one day we were at the doctor's office for my husband and he blew up at me in front of the doctor. The doctor saw it and stuck up for me and sent him to a psychologist to help him. After 12 weeks of therapy and being told his case was Sever. This was a huge eye opener. I could now get on the road to understanding my husband and why he acted as he did. To our children the older ones understood but to our then 7-year-old how do you explain the behavior as it is not his fault. This was very hard.
After explaining to our 7-year-old that daddy had seen his sister at age 2 get picked up and thrown into a wall by his mother at age 4 and killed was a very traumatic thing and daddy needed help to get over it. He then went into the foster care until age 7 years when he was adopted out to a couple that split up 6 months later. The adopted father was abusive and controlling which then made it all worse yet. Then when daddy went to tell Grandpa that he enlisted into the Navy at age 17 years old to go into basic training right after he graduated his father hit him over the back with a 2x4 for enlisting. When daddy got out of boot camp he was then off to a ship and on a 6 month deployment to the First Gulf War (Desert Storm) and was at war for 9 months. Then while working my husband became disabled due to tearing two ligaments and the cartilage in his left hand that will never heal. My husband is left-handed and cannot ever work again due to no use of his left hand. This was a hard hit especially since it came two weeks before he was leaving for PGA Golf School to pursue his dreams. This all put together made it hard for his daddy (my husband) My husband is a strong man and I love him more and more for all the crap he has gone through within his life.
My husband is now disabled and has sever pain daily plus fights the demons of this PTSD. We have lived with him not going and enjoying many things due to the fact he gets really bad around crowds and that is 10 or more people. The man who hates everyone comes out and People look at him like he is an angry person but he is not if he is not in this kind of situation. This is where the judging has to stop. We found a place in the Mt Hood National Forest that really is awesome with nature and makes my husband at ease. We learned to do things without him but he always knows he is welcome to join us. He loves nature and this keeps him calm. He also has his medical Marijuana card due to this being the only thing that helps with his pain and PTSD. If he goes out into public I need to keep him medicated because marijuana is the only thing that relaxes him and helps his pain. I will blog more on that too.
PTSD is a disease that taking time to understand will help. I am here to help answer questions too, because it helps to have an outlet and someone who understands to talk with.
Thank you for reading.
TJ Moomey
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